Family Sense

You don't choose your family. They are God's gift to you, as you are to them. By Desmond Tutu

转个弯,一样行得通

Posted by Ariana on Jul-25-2009

我常被问的问题是:“我的孩子很叛逆,不管用什么方法都行不通;我气得只好用骂的,甚至鞭打他。然而孩子更生气我,我自己也不好受,怎么办?……”诸如此类的问题,我们一点也不陌生,甚至自己也常常处于这些经验中。

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通常我们会把这类的问题视为管教的问题,这也没错,但换个角度来看,这其实也包含了人际关系、沟通及冲突的成份。如果我们以这个角度来看,就不难接受一个事实:在人际冲突中,没有绝对A方是对;B方是错的。在解决冲突时,除了指头指向对方,也要自我省察。

同样的,当我们一味地抱怨孩子的背逆、不听话、不合作与我们产生冲突,我们其实也应该静下心来想一想,在要求他们改变之前,我们是不是也有该调整的地方呢? Read the rest of this entry »

Introduction

Posted by Family Sense on May-13-2009

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